Do You Make These Mistakes In Your Family Life?

Do You Make These Mistakes In Your Family Life?

One day, a friend came up to me with a problem.
Let’s call her Demanding Delia.
Delia was complaining about her husband to me. Next to watching Korean telenovelas, that was her favourite pastime. She said, “Bo, there’s not one romantic bone in my husband’s body. He doesn’t date me. He doesn’t give me flowers. Affection isn’t part of his vocabulary. Oh Bo, can you please talk to my husband?”
Delia is my friend and I could be very frank with her.
I said, “Delia, do you remember when you came to me 7 years ago?”
“I think I do remember,” she said.
“You were also complaining about your husband. You came to me, crying buckets of tears, because you discovered that he was having an affair.”
“Oh, yes…”
“It was the third time you caught him with another girl. And tell me if I’m right, I remember you were complaining that he was also an alcoholic and a gambler.”
“Uh-huh,” she nodded.
“But 6 years ago, God answered your prayer. Your husband came to our prayer meeting, gave his life to God, and is now serving in Church. Overnight, he gave up his girlfriends, his drinking, his smoking, and his gambling.”
“Yes, that was a miracle,” she said.
I told her, “Adultery is against the 6th commandment. Being unromantic isn’t. It’ll be great if he is, and you should tell him what you want. But I think right now, you need to lower your expectations. Accept him for who he is. Nagging him won’t work. Surrender him to God.”
That day, her husband became happier. Because Delia was no longer Demanding Delia but Delighted Delia. Delia made a very simple change in her attitude—but the impact on her relationship was powerful.
It’s these simple “actionable” changes that you’ll learn in my inspiring new book, How To Build A Happy Family, and my powerful video and audio course, Relationships Reborn.
I believe that after 7 sessions of listening to God’s Word about relationships, you’ll see your relationships dramatically change.

Why Only Now

For years, people have been asking me to write a book on family life. “Bo, we need it badly! Our friends need it badly!” they’d say.
But I felt it wasn’t yet the right time.
That is, until now.
Today, I feel I have the credibility.
I’m no longer speaking out of thin air. I’m not speaking from lofty theories, but from my firsthand, face-to-face, belly-to-belly, gritty, daily grind of being married to my beautiful wife of 12 years and raising two of the greatest boys on the planet.
And what have I learned?
That family life is like pushing a luggage cart overflowing with 3 suitcases and 4 balikbayan boxes, complete with a squeaky left wheel, up a steep ramp in the old Manila international airport. (Remember that one? I almost killed people there. I was moving down towards the parking lot. Soon, I no longer had control of my cargo. All my bags and boxes went tumbling down like rocks in a landslide. A poor nun in front of me almost went to Heaven, if she didn’t jump to the side.)
Friend, when it comes to your family, you need to keep pushing upwards. Everyday! You need to renew your family life.
Resting is not an option. The weight is too much. Soon, gravity will pull it going down.
The gravity of selfishness. Indifference. Or just the sheer gamut of distractions around you.
Let me show you a better way.

Get A Divine Porter

I’d like to teach you how to push upwards towards having a fantastic, wonderful, loving family.
Here’s the good news: You don’t have to push alone.
Soon, others in your family will push with you. As you change, in due time, they too will change.
And remember your porter beside you: God is pushing with you. He’s committed to your family. He will make you strong. He will guide your way.

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

MY THOUGHTS

"you need to keep pushing upward" and "you're not doing it alone". that's worth remembering - always. i don't know what i'd do without family but sometimes things get too much. and we can't let go. because that's the ony family we have. and the only ones who truly truly loves us unconditionally. apart from God.